Womb Twin Kids Aged 8-12 Years

At this age, children are ready for some more in-depth information. They also want reassurance that how they are feeling is normal.


Common problems at this age:


Unexplained bouts of crying or sadness

Preoccupation with death and dying

Yearning for a pet

Fear of being alone in the dark

Gender confusion - (eg. A girl wanting to be a boy, or vice versa)

Self isolation (ie. spending a long time alone by choice)

Feeling different


A major problem for all children at this age is peer pressure - wanting to "fit in" and be acceptable to other children. Womb twin survivors feel different from other children, simply because they have had a rather unusual prenatal experience, not shared by their peers. They often fear rejection. We now know that these children are responding to their prenatal experience in a completely normal way. It is important for both adults and children to recognise this.


What parents can do to help and support their child:

* Understand that the loss of a twin before or around birth has a real physical and emotional effect.


* The lost twin is an important person in the life of your little womb twin survivor.


* It is normal if your child has a sense of their twin still "with them" in some way.


* Your child will need a surrogate twin. If he or she shows an undue attachment to one particular individual, this person may have become the "surrogate twin." If the person concerned makes a complaint, this tendency can be explained and the relationship negotiated by all the parties involved.



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