Womb twin kids aged 8-12 years

At this age, children are ready for some more in-depth information. They also want reassurance that how they are feeling is normal.

 

Common problems at this age:

Unexplained bouts of crying or sadness

Preoccupation with death and dying

Yearning for a pet

Fear of being alone in the dark

Gender confusion - (eg. A girl wanting to be a boy, or vice versa)

Self isolation (ie. spending a long time alone by choice

Feeling different

 

 * Understand that the loss of a twin before or around birth has a real physical and emotional effect.

 * The lost twin is an important person in the life of your little womb twin survivor.

 * It is normal if your child has a sense of their twin still "with them" in some way.

 * Your child will need a surrogate twin. If he or she shows an undue attachment to one particular individual, this person may have become the "surrogate twin." If the person concerned makes a complaint, this tendency can be explained and the relationship negotiated by all the parties involved.

The Womb Twin Kids project is supported by Womb Twin.

What parents can do to help and support their child:

A major problem for all children at this age is peer pressure - wanting to "fit in" and be acceptable to other chidren. Womb twin survivors feel different from other childen, simply because they have had a rather unusual prenatal experience, not shared by their peers. They often fear rejection. We now know that these children are responding to their prenatal experience in a completely normal way. It is important for both adults and children to recognise this.

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